Advice on Relationships

Every relationship is unique, with its own rhythms and cadences based on the two people involved. But no relationship survives on auto-pilot. Both parties need to work toward making each other happy, commit to the relationship as a whole, and acknowledge their needs as individuals as well as a couple. The specifics may differ, but the basics never change. By applying a few simple tips, you can make the road to happiness much easier to travel.

Communication

1. Couples who don't talk to each other are usually doomed. For a relationship to flourish, the two parties must maintain open lines of communication. They need to be able to speak openly and respectfully about their feelings, without bottling them up. When problems arise, they need to discuss them. When one partner needs a break or a little support, he or she should ask for it. Communication should be a two-way street. You need to listen when your partner has something to say and should expect the same treatment in kind. Openness between the two of you can't help but strengthen your bonds.

Friendship

2. Romance is the spice of life, but a relationship needs to thrive on more than candlelit dinners and walks in the moonlight. Sooner or later, you're going to be sitting on the couch with each other on a dull night without much to do. If your relationship contains as much friendship as romantic attraction, that won't be a problem. You'll be able to chat with each other about interesting things, participate in different activities together and just enjoy each other's company. As with most aspects of a relationship, friendship needs to come from both parties. Be a reliable and supportive friend to your partner and your partner should do the same for you.

Goals

3. When entering into a relationship, it helps to define the goals you have for it. This includes both broader, long-term goals and simpler, more immediate goals. You should discuss them with your partner as the relationship is forming and make sure you both have compatible goals. Then, as the relationship grows, think about ways you can move toward those goals. Look at the big stuff and the ways you're both planning for it, then find little things you can do each day to make the process easier. Let your partner know that you appreciate his or her efforts, for example, or surprise him or her with a little present every now and then. Those little steps matter, and move you closer to achieving your goals as much as the bigger ones do.

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How to Know if Someone Likes You Romantically

This is one of the most annoying things to have popping up in your mind all the time. You want to find out, but don't know how to go about doing it. Sometimes the direct approach is best--just ask. But if that seems too bold for your liking, look for the following signs.

Behaviour:

1. Pay attention to your conversations with the person in question. Does this person show a special interest in having a conversation with you and, once started, make an effort to keep that conversation going?

2. Is this person "accidentally" running into you in places where he or she knows you will be, such as at your desk? At the Laundromat on Tuesdays? At your brother's birthday party?

3. Make a note if he or she mentions future plans to spend time with you: "That band is coming to town soon. We should really get tickets."

4. Spend time alone together. Canceling other plans in order to be with you longer, or not finding excuses to leave, could be a sign of interest.

5. Has he or she been calling for random reasons, such as, "I was wondering if you knew what that pizza place down the street is called," followed by, "Are you hungry?"

6. Has this person taken a sudden interest in your life and hobbies? This is a sure sign that he or she is interested in something - and it's probably not your stamp collection.

7. Observe how the person acts around your friends - he or she might be extra friendly to your closest pals for a reason.

Body Language:

1. Sometimes seeing someone you have a crush on results in telltale physiological signs. Does the person in question blush when you look at him or her? His or her sympathetic nervous system is probably going into overdrive. Does he or she have trouble speaking, using jumbled words when talking to you?

2. See if the person in question mirrors your motions: When you lean back, he or she leans back; when you put your elbows on the table, he or she does the same.

3. Note whether this person sits or stands in the open position - that is, facing you with arms uncrossed. In addition, a woman tends to cross her legs in a man's direction.

4. Does he or she move closer to you and/or touch you subtly, such as with a pat of your hand or a touch of your cheek?

5. Other elements of body language include frequent eye contact, holding your gaze and looking down before looking away, energetic speech coupled with open hands, and flashing palms.

6. Does the person you're wondering about just plain smile at you a lot?

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How to Love Your Boyfriend

1. Tell him that you love him everyday and at random times. 

2. Intertwine your fingers with his when you walk together.

3. Cuddle up to him when you're sitting next to each other.

4. Be happy when you are around him. If you are having a bad day, let him know. He's there for you.

5. Spend time with your friends and never compromise when he is sad. You don't have your full time with him.

6. Hug him from behind sometimes as a surprise.

7. Share some inside jokes with each other - there's something very bonding about having a cute little secret only the two of you know.

8. Cheer him up when he's down. Anything from a joke to a sweet note left where he could see it.

9. Bake or make things for him. It's a really sweet gesture and he's sure to appreciate it.

10. Try not to be bitter or jealous. Be humble, sweet, adorable and extra flirty.

11. Be honest. When he asks you if you're okay, don't tell him you're fine if you're not.

12. Compliment him on how he looks, what he's wearing, etc.

13. Hug/kiss him first sometimes. Don't let him be the one always doing it first.

14. Lean on his chest when he is lying down. Most guys like that and he won't stop you.

15. Show your love to him whenever you can.

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5 Ways to Show Him You Love Him

1. Shower him with little gifts: picture frame with a picture of the two of you; slip a note in his favorite magazine; replace his bookmark with a special note; text him sweet nothings. 

2. Say "I love you" with music: compile a CD of love songs or of his favorite songs and slip it into his car; buy that CD he's had his eye on; write him a song or poem 

3. Be crafty: make him something that you know he'll love; customize a calendar with pictures, highlighting special days with his favorite sports team 

4. Do him a favor: do something that he normally does or wants to get done before he has the change; get his watch polished for him; get tickets for that movie he's been dying to see; write him a coupon to get out of his chores for the day 

5. Prepare a romantic dinner: get the kids out of the house, and dine with style; makes favorite meal and finish off with his favorite dessert

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Charactheristics of Christian Husband

What attributes should you look for in a Christian mate? Following is a handy checklist of relevant scriptures that you should keep in mind as you search for your Christian soulmate:

1. He should be willing to put your relationship before all others:

Genesis 2:24
For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to (to cling, stick, stay close, cleave, keep close, stick to, stick with, follow closely, join to, overtake, catch) his wife, and they will become one flesh. 

2. He should be a good leader:

Ephesians 5:23
For the husband is the head (metaphor, anything supreme, chief, prominent of persons, master lord: of a husband in relation to his wife of Christ: the Lord of the husband and of the Church of things: the corner stone) of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 

3. He should love you as much as he loves himself and be willing to give himself for you:

Ephesians 5

25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church.

Ten Ways to Tell Your Spouse You Love Them Without Saying a Word

1. Hold Hands. Spontaneously reaching over and entwining fingers with the one you love has an instant, soothing affect. You immediately feel connected. I love to reach out and clasp my husband's hand while we are in the car. It brings back memories of when we were dating...and minus two children in the car!

2. Write a Love Note. Written expressions of appreciation and love are an instant boost. Finding them unexpectedly is even better! My husband leaves for work at 4:30 in the morning. I usually leave him a note on the bathroom sink, telling him to have a good day and put a heart or smiley face on it. It sounds a little corny, but he really does like seeing it first thing in the morning.

3. Catch his eye across the room. Ever been at a crowded gathering, separated from your partner? Give a wink or a small smile to let him know you would still rather be in his company than anyone else's.

4. Wear that perfume or outfit or shoes you know he loves. Even if it's not your favorite, make the small sacrifice. This says that you care about his likes and dislikes.

5. If your man is a sports fan, take the time that the game is on for some snuggling on the couch. I have never been interested in football, but my husband is a die hard Jets fan. All through the football season, I spend at least part of the time with him on the couch while he is enjoying the game. I read a book or magazine while he satisfies his football addiction. The physical closeness, while both doing something we enjoy makes the time special.

6. Every now and then, take over one of "his" chores. No one enjoys taking out the garbage. In our house, it is typically my husband's job. Sometimes I'll just do it before he gets around to it. He always notices and appreciates it.

7. Every so often, take the time to make a really special meal. It is an old cliche that the way to a man's heart is through his stomach. There is something heartwarming about having that special someone take the time to  
prepare a delicious, satisfying meal.

8. Really listen when he is talking. It's very easy to tune him out when you've heard the same work story over and over. Make the effort to focus on what he's saying. Or at the very least, refrain from saying, "I know, I know, you've told me a thousand times !"

9. Light up when he comes in the room. No, you don't have to do a dance every time he joins you in the living room or kitchen, but do give a smile and let him know you are happy to see him.

10. Now for the bedroom stuff. Being a wife and mother is exhausting work. Throw in an outside job and romance can fall by the wayside. Don't always shut him down if he's in the mood and you're not. Relax and focus on the love you share. I am not advocating responding to his advances if you are really and truly not interested. Just stay open to the possibility of quality private time together, even if initially all you really want to do is sleep!

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4 Factors of Attractiveness

1. Physical Attractiveness

While the professionals say that physical beauty is a main factor in influencing our selection of people, how many times have you heard someone say that beauty doesn’t matter? These days, nobody wants to admit that we consider good-looks to be an issue. We’d rather be a part of the noble few that really sees beyond the outside, and therefore would never own up to the possibility that we want both inner and outer beauty.

The ‘truth’ of the matter is that we actually do size people up according to looks, among the first few things, and we might be doing this on an unconscious level – that we are unaware of it.

2. Proximity

The more we see them, the more likely we are to be attracted – that’s what they tell us, anyway. Now, on some level, this may be blatantly true, because consider how much time we spend around someone we want to get to know, and eventually it’s just bound to happen, but consider that on the grounds of virtual reality and you’ll find that it’s even more astounding!

People can now generate relationships over a computer screen, but how would they have known that back then when cyberspace wasn’t as big a deal as it is now? This might mean that it isn’t the physical factor that attracts us, but the inside that counts for a little more, which holds up a pretty good argument against Factor 1. How DO they fall in love in cyberspace, if not for what’s inside? Oh, and this is assuming we’re back in the days when webcam was a luxury.

3. Similarity

This then breaks down to four smaller categories – demographic similarity, attitudinal similarity, similarity in physical attractiveness, and similarity in interests and experiences. Whatever happened to ‘opposites attract’? How would we then go on to explain the phenomenon of one ToDieFor partner when the other looks like SomethingTheCatDraggedIn? How we go about the story of the handsome prince falling in love with a sweet little peasant girls from the suburbs? And what about those couples like Dharma and Greg?

Do we really want to be with someone who is a lot like ourselves? To what degree until it becomes narcissistic?

4. Reciprocity of Liking

‘We like those who like us, and say nice things about us‘ (Berscheid & Reis, 1998)

When we were kids in the playground, the fairer sex might have adhered to that theory, hurling all the possible admiration, affection, and attention we could muster to the boys that gave us butterflies, but they, however, pulled on our pigtails and trampled our sweet little faces into the mud when they had an inkling of a feeling. Complete, utter self-denial, and they acted out in the worst possible manner to prove that so.

These days, even, we make things so frustratingly complicated when we come to terms with an attraction, and more often than not, it’s a lot of mixed signals out there before the message finally gets across. We think excessive compliments are a reason to run for the hills, so where’s the fine line between courting and creepy?

Personally, I think there’s some truth to what the scientists say, but when put into account for the current day, it doesn’t add up and therefore we should all collectively work on a whole new list of factors that are a little more up-to-date. I, for one, don’t think trimmed toenails are too much to ask for…

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10 Signs a Man is Not Ready to Commit

1. He is Noncommittal and Vague About His Feelings

You can never quite get him to admit to the depth (or shallowness) of his feelings for you. You are ‘okay’, ‘alright’ or ‘straight’. He hasn’t made any proclamations about what you mean to him, how important you are to him or what he thinks about you. In the best-case scenario (if your man is not particularly talkative), he shows his feelings, even if he doesn’t tell you about them. He is polite, courteous and responsive to your needs. He cooks for you. He mows the lawn (unasked). Or something along those lines. The worst-case scenario? He doesn’t share any of his feelings with you because he doesn’t have any. The deepest feeling he has for you is the aforementioned ‘alright’. And nobody wants to be just 'alright'.

2. He Doesn’t Share His Plans With You

You don’t know how he spends his free time. You don’t know who his friends are. You don’t know what his goals are. Yet he seems to have a whole, entire and active life completely apart from you. This is not a good sign. If you are not a significant part of his current life, you are probably not a significant part of his future plans either. If you are in a new relationship, give it some time. But if you still know very little about him after dating him for several months (or several years), this man is quite happy to keep you right where he has you – on the outside looking in.

3. He Doesn’t Answer the Phone When You Call

Yes, I know we all get busy sometimes. I don’t answer my phone at least 30% of the time (I have to work and sleep, you know). But if, he rarely or never picks up? Or if he is only calls you in response to a message (or several) you’ve left on his phone or because he sees your number on his caller ID? Bad, bad, bad signs. A man who is interested in you wants to talk to you. No matter what else he has going on – work, family, children or whatever. You should be a priority to him (or at least your phone calls should be). If you are not, you need to re-consider his being a priority in your life.

4. He Hasn’t Introduced You to Anyone (or Introduces You as a ‘Friend’)

Okay – this is simple. If a man has not introduced you to anybody he knows (and he at least has a mama, a couple of friends, co-workers, or somebody), you are probably not very important to him or his life. Why do I say that? What’s one of the first things you do when you meet someone (that you really like)? Introduce him to your friends or invite him to different functions. Men are not so very different from us – if they love having you around, they will invite you to be where they are. And, in the normal course of those invitations, you will meet people who are in his life. If you haven't, then beware. And, closely related to this:

5. He Doesn’t Tell Anyone About You

When you talk to him, he may mention conversations he's had with his family or friends. He tells you all about these conversations where he discusses baseball games or the basketball finals he watched on tv, the repair he's having done to his car or how his boss is getting on his nerves. He may even mention to these aforesaid friends and family his weekend plans. But, then you catch on to something – he told them what he was going to do, but not with whom he would be doing those things (namely, you). A simple oversight? An overriding need for privacy? Possibly. But, more than likely, he is not ready for anyone to know of your existence in his life. This could be for a number of reasons, but none of them are good. So, keep up with his mentions of you in his life – it is an important indicator of intent and the seriousness with which he takes your relationship.

6. He Talks About His Future in Terms of ‘I’

When he talks about where he's going to live, what job he plans on getting or what school he plans to attend, it's all about him. "I'm" going to move to Florida or "I'm" going to go to the University of Nevada. Or, even when he talks about things that could conceivably involve you, like a future trip, moving from his apartment to his house or even a movie he plans to see, for heaven's sake, still no mention of you. What should this say to you? That he's still thinking of himself in terms of being single. It has not yet occurred to him that the relationship he has with you could become more serious. All those "I's" and lacks of "we's" is his subconscious way of telling you that he does not consider you to be his partner.

7. He Doesn’t Take You Out

Sure, he likes spending time with you – but only in the privacy of his home. Or, he can hang out with you at school, but it never seems to go further than the coffee shop or library. This man is not ready to be serious with you. A man who wants to be with you will spend time with you in a variety of places – both publicly and privately. And even if he's not personally very interested in going to the museum, eating out or seeing a movie, he should at least be willing to give it a shot if it means pleasing you. Beware of a man who limits your activity to one specific type of place.

8. Only Calls Late (aka Treats You Like a Booty Call)

Right. I know that we are all Christians and we are not engaging in late-night conversations with inapproporate men. But, just in case this applies to you (and you are accepting those late-night calls), just understand that he is not serious about you. If he only calls late, you have to ask yourself: what is he doing between the hours of 8am and 9pm? Why can't he call then? Is he involved with someone else? Is he married or recently separated? Or does he simply see you as a way to get his needs met (whatever they are)? Unless he works a really odd shift, there is no reason that your guy cannot call you at a reasonable hour. Do what seems right to you, but know that late night calls do not equal serious intentions.

9. He Doesn’t Share Personal Information 

Have you ever asked yourself why you don't know where your guy lives? Or where he works? Or you're not even 100% sure of his last name? Unless you are truly just disinterested (or aren't inquisitive enough to ask him), it's probably because he doesn't want you to know. And why doesn't he want you to know? He could be hiding something. Or, most likely he doesn't consider your relationship to be serious enough to share the serious information about his life with you. Don't think so? Try asking him thoe questions the next time you see him. His answers (or lack of answers) will speak for themselves.

10. He Doesn’t Take an Interest in Your Activities or Your Future Plans

We've already been over the fact that he doesn't tell you his future plans. But now, to add insult to injury, he doesn't ask about yours either. Why is this such a bad thing? Let me ask you something – to what kind of people do you fail to ask questions like these? That's right – acquaintances. People you barely know. You even talk to your boss (who you can't stand) about what you plan to do for the weekend. Yet your guy doesn't ask? Very suspicious. Suspicious enough for you to rightly think that he simply isn't interested in knowing. Or else – he'd ask.

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15 Strong Signs He Or She Is In Love With You

Below are 15 signals that will help you decide if the man or woman you are attracted to -- or are with -- loves you or not.

1. He/she shows interest in your life - asks about your day, family, friends and work; remembers whatever say and do etc.;

2. He/she knows exactly what makes you smile, feel special and taken care of;

3. He/she is very affectionate, attentive, sensitive, considerate and cares about your needs, wants and desires;

4. He/she calls you just because he/she was thinking about you, misses you, or just felt like it etc.;

5. He/she wants to spend as much with you as is possible - clears up his/her busy schedule and makes plans just for you, travels long distances just to be with you etc.;

6. He/she talks to you about things he/she doesn't talk about with anybody else;

7. He/she walks that special extra mile just for you - shares your interests even if he/she doesn't like what you like, puts aside what they could be doing just to talk, listen or do something for you instead etc.;

8. He/she tells you how wonderful you make him/her feel and how having you in his/her life enriches it;

9. He/she does small unexpected things to pleasantly surprise you- sends an email message, shows up at your workplace, gets you something you always wanted etc.;

10. He/she loves and enjoys being physically close to you;

11. He/she takes time to choose his/her gifts for you - regardless of the price tag;

12. He/she gives without being asked and accepts from you with gratitude;

13. He/she wants a future with you in it – talks about it and plans for it;

14. He/she tells you he/she loves you;

15. You just know it – no doubting, no questioning, no wondering, no convincing or trying to make him/her love you and no strings attached. You look into his/her eyes and you know it. Something inside of you just knows.

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100 Things I Love About Him

1) The way he holds me when i'm down
2) His sensitive personality
3) His funny side!
4) His gentle, loving touch that i can’t live without...
5) His absolutely beautiful, sexy brown eyes. I get lost every time i look into them
6) His amazing hugs!
7) He’s here when i need him
8) He always knows what to say to me...
9) His voice. So soothing, so gentle... love it
10) He cares soooo incredibly much
11) He worries about me... makes me feel like i matter. Makes me feel loved.
12) He tries to understand me, that’s wonderful
13) He listens
14) He is honest
15) He is a giver, not a taker
16) He picks me up when i fall (metaphorically AND physically!)
17) He’s a gentleman to everyone, so wonderful.
18) He’s nice to his mother
19) The way he doesn’t always conform.
20) His kisses
21) The way we instantly knew we loved each other and would for life
22) He is shy. I love shy guys
23) His charm
24) He is so handsome
25) He’s a musician
26) The way he always tells me I’m beautiful, inside and out, even when I don’t think so
27) The way he appreciates the way i think
28) He appreciates my art
29) He’s taller than me
30) He sees me at the same level as him, even though I’m a year younger than he is
31) His determination
32) The way we understand each other
33) He never gave up on me, and never will
34) The way he puts up with my overactive imagination :P
35) The way he puts up with my randomness!
36) He is the first person I ever loved and the first person I ever felt loved by (romantically)
37) We’re soul mates... definitely
38) He knows my weaknesses
39) He knows my strengths
40) He respects me
41) His respect for his mother! That goes a long way with me. I love men who respect their elders
42) He knows what hurts me
43) He is always careful around me
44) He knows what to do around me so he doesn’t physically hurt me
45) He knows that I’m extremely sensitive
46) He is stronger than I am
47) I feel so extremely safe in his arms, i never want to leave them
48) He calls me “love”
49) Even when he doesn’t agree with me, he can understand me
50) Our relationship is built on love, not lust
51) His sweet, loving, kind heart
52) The way he talks about me... makes me feel like the most important person in the world
53) His laugh
54) His lack of knowledge for actors and actresses. Lol.
55) He knows how to excite me!
56) His ability to make me smile when no one else can
57) The way he opens the car door for me, walks me to my car, just being a gentleman
58) When he plays piano for me... I can’t believe this is number 58 because this is definitely one of the things i love most about him. He plays so beautifully... I love it soooo so much.
59) When he says “i love you”
60) When he says my name
61) His commitment to me. His loyalty and devotion
62) The way his fingers fit between mine perfectly. Made for each other
63) His mother, she’s a nice woman
64) His leather jacket!
65) He’s a deep thinker
66) The way he looks into my eyes
67) The way he knows when something is wrong
68) The way he cuddles
69) He’s a goofball!
70) His ability to arouse me... lol
71) I love the way he tells me how he misses me...
72) The way he makes me feel like I actually belong
73) His smell
74) The way he really cares for me and wants to take care of me
75) He is my love, my best friend, the one I KNOW i can trust
76) He has a fat cat named Zack!
77) I love how he’s nervous when he comes in for a kiss
78) I love how he stalks me religiously
79) He knows when to back off and give me some space
80) He knows of my fears and comforts me about them
81) He listens. (I know i already said this, but this is a genuine trait that few men out there have...) He listens to me. He wants to know what I have  to say all the time.
82) He gives me comfort when I am in pain
83) He is sincere
84) He makes me feel so loved... so special
85) He loves me for who I am
86) We’re such a perfect match
87) I can tell him anything
88) He has the key to my heart
89) He is the reason I want to go on in this twisted world
90) He means the world to me
91) He is a dream come true to me
92) He can be corny :) haha
93) He never wants to let me go home... He never wants to let go of me. He wants to hold me forever
94) When I’m feeling the worst, he makes me feel the happiest
95) How he would do anything I say
96) He tells me he would go to the end of the world for me...
97) The way we complete each other. Your weaknesses are my strengths, and my strengths are your weaknesses
98) The way you text me every freaking minute :)
99) He is simply irresistible...
100) I love the way that he let me inside of his world. He has given me the chance to get to know him and I took that chance and will never, ever regret it. I love you.

(Source: www.experienceproject.com)

4 Things a Woman Needs From Man

This is not another article about “what women want.” That subject has been more than sufficiently covered in decades of magazine articles and movies. To the real man, what women *need* is the more practical study.

If you fancy going deeper than the garden variety “remember anniversaries,” “tell her you love her” and “great sex” advice, …take a glance at yourself against the following 4 needs, and make sure your woman is covered:

1. A woman needs you to be decisive. 
Want to irk a woman? Next time she asks you what restaurant you’re taking her to, say: “mmm… I dunno… where do you want to go?” …which of these dresses look the best for tonight? “mmm… I dunno… whichever one you like better.”

She may never tell you but, under the surface, you do your relationship a good bit of damage when you show yourself to be indecisive. As a man, you have the privilege of making decisions without all of the emotional cross-talk that goes on inside a woman’s head. That natural characteristic of yours is one of the perks a woman receives when she has a man in her life. So, don’t cheat her out of it. Be a man with places to go, a definite opinion …a man with a plan.

If you’re dating or married to a relatively successful girl, this becomes even more important. Having a strong, decisive man to defer to on evenings and weekends is a huge relief to a professional woman who spends her days making weighty decisions. No matter how smart and capable she is, sometimes all a woman wants to be is a little girl. Let her. Be her “daddy” when she wants you to be. Decide for her. Make everything alright.


2. A woman needs to feel safe with you. 
This doesn’t mean you have to ‘right cross’ every dude in public who looks at your lady too long. While she does, indeed, need to feel physically protected, she needs to feel “safe” in an even more important way:
she needs to feel that she can express her deepest thoughts and feelings to you in a totally open and honest way …without being argued down, rejected, or made to feel stupid. 

As men, we tend to look for the hard logic in everything. As we listen to someone talk, we monitor every sentence for inconsistencies. “Wait, that makes no sense,” we interrupt, followed by a cross-exam worthy of Supreme Court. This is most assuredly a valuable skill in the outside world, but when listening to your woman — it is a must that you silence your inner lawyer.

When a woman first meets you, and doesn’t really know you, she sorts her thoughts first, then she says them aloud (…just like you and I). One of the best signs that a woman is getting comfortable with you is when she says her thoughts first, then sorts them aloud. Provided you’re not dating a dunce, she usually already knows she’s not making sense — she’s not trying to. She simply wants to say her thoughts out, and play with the order of things — she wants to flip her ideas upside down and rearrange them like puzzle pieces in the air. Picture the movie Minority Report.

And here’s the key: the fact that she’s willing to do that with you in the room is one way a woman expresses her intimate feelings toward you. So, as painful to your logic-centric self as it may be, it can actually be a good sign when a woman says something to you that makes no sense. Just listen with a sympathetic ear, let her sort things out …and make no judgments. Be assured, you will be thanked often, with more than words.

3. A woman needs you to be successful. 
You can be worth $700 mil — if you have no goals, no projects, if you’re not accomplishing anything new …you, my good man, are not successful. Your woman will never tire of spending your money, but she will tire of you.
Every emotionally healthy woman desires an ambitious man who aspires to something greater than he is.

A man who has chosen his list of mountains to climb — and is enthusiastically climbing them, presents as a man with the potential to take a woman to new heights and exciting places she never thought she’d see (…or perhaps, always dreamed she would). You are a man who can greatly enhance her life’s journey.

Of course, we’re talking women, here — not girls. Some girls remain in the exploratory, “man-candy” stage till 25, or later. Once they figure things out, though, they come running for the bold, daring, ambitious, resourceful, imaginative, enterprising men. Successful men. If you’re a young man right now, you should be working on being one of these men. (…the money will naturally come. Money doesn’t bring you success — success brings you money.)

4. A woman needs you to lead her, not follow her. 
No woman (in a relationship with a man) wants to be the boss — no emotionally healthy woman, that is. High-quality women are turned off by domineering men …but turned on by confident, self-assured and capable men.
Unfortunately, most men are afraid of their women.

Not in a physical sense, of course …but in the sense that most men get extremely uncomfortable anytime their wife or girlfriend is upset, or even slightly unhappy. This tendency puts your woman in the driver’s seat — and, contrary to how she may behave, she doesn’t really want to be there. What she really needs is to be able to lean on you, like a rock …but she’ll never feel comfortable doing so if she continually sees you compromise your own values to try and keep her happy. In his book Hold on to Your N.U.T.s (highly recommended), author Wayne M. Levine says it best:
“Allow your woman to have her own problems and feel her own feelings without having to worry about how that makes you feel.” – Wayne M. Levine, Hold on to Your N.U.T.s

Contrary to popular belief, keeping your woman happy is not your mission in life. Your woman’s happiness is her job. She must decide to be happy, or not to be. Your job, as a man, is to chart the course and steer the ship. You do this by setting your most important values firmly, and never abandoning course.

Most men give up things they really value in an effort to align their lives with a woman’s wishes:
a man who loves to ski — stops skiing because his girlfriend doesn’t like to ski…
a man who loves to play basketball once a week with his friends — quits because his wife views it as childish, or too dangerous for a married man.

“Why do you always have to go fishing?” she might ask. …”I don’t like you on that motorcycle,” she may say. One by one, the man gives up the things that bring him the most joy, satisfaction, outlet and renewal — all in the name of keeping his woman happy. The result? He becomes brooding, resentful, (out of shape…), and prone to loud or violent outbursts, that even he doesn’t understand. And, of course, his effort to keep her happy fails, after all.

It’s not the woman’s fault. She’s waiting for you to lead. What sound like complaints are simply harmless voicings of her fears, concerns and preferences. As a man, it’s your responsibility to take those preferences into serious consideration and accommodate her, where possible. However, when those preferences conflict with a value that you have determined to be important to your well-being, you must steer the ship accordingly. As the leader, if you’re not okay, nobody’s okay.

(Source: www.whatamanknows.com)

10 Things Men Shoul Know About Woman

Women and men are different. We've got a lot in common, but sometimes we just want different things. Our culture stops us from communicating what we really want, especially in dating situations - and there's some things that are just too awkward to explain. 

What secrets aren't being shared? Here's ten things you need to know.

* "We don't always need you to fix it."
 There's an old saying that when a man pops the hood of his car, all the other men gather around. But this helpfulness becomes irritating if a woman is just looking for sympathy. What she wants to hear is "I understand" - not "You should try doing it this way!"

* "You're not fooling anyone." Mark Twain said that boys start out by imitating men - and then continue to do so for the rest of their life. It gets confusing for men when their friends or teachers encourage them to act more mature - but a real connection comes from being yourself. A little honesty is attractive, while acting overconfident is a put-off.

* R-E-S-P-E-C-T. Don't fake respect - feel it. Everyone likes to feel good about themselves, and ultimately everyone does have something to offer. Your mission is to find that - in yourself, and in the women around you. Instead of being a chore, this is really part of the fun. What's her superpower - and what's yours?

* Share your sweetness. Men are discouraged from being "too emotional" when they're young, but in a relationship there's one emotion women love to see: affection. If you're thinking a fond thought, share it. If she looks fantastic, tell her! No matter how you were raised, it's okay to be sentimental during those quiet moments on a lazy Sunday afternoon.

* "If we're interested, we'll let you know." Obviously when approaching someone there's a subtle dance, since somebody still has to make the first move. But if you've already signaled your interest, you'll get a signal back if the woman you're pursuing is also interested. And if there's no signal back - that's a signal in itself. If you keep pushing it, you're just being annoying.

* Don't presume she's interested. When a man approaches a woman, she's thinking two things. "Why is he talking to me?" and "When is he leaving?" It's always uncomfortable when a strange man approaches a woman. Successful pick-up lines invent a plausible reason for the initial contact - and preferably, one that signals you're leaving soon. Use that moment to make an impression - but never presume that you've earned an ongoing audience!

* Listening works. Whether we know it or not, everyone really just wants to connect. Unfortunately, you can feel alone even when talking to someone - if you're feeling they don't understand you! But there's a real joy in communicating. It helps to find something you're both interested in, but the real key is listening for the feeling behind the words.

* Neediness is a turn off. Men want things, women want things. But telegraphing your voids, your frustrations, and your unresolved pains...makes you sound like a lot of work. No one wants a partner who's "high maintenance." If you really want a successful relationship, make sure you've got your own life in order first.

* Don't lie. Even with little things, dishonesty leaves a permanent mark. If "men are from Mars," trusting them requires a leap of faith. But instead, lies create a reason for distrusting. And even an undiscovered lie can damage a relationship - since then you've really made a commitment towards maintaining that lie, indefinitely!

* Don't sweat it. Women are just like you. Movies and TV shows show extreme examples of female behavior - and male behavior. Fortunately, no one's like that in real life. We're all just people.

Discovering that is part of the fun!

(Source: www.helium.com)

The Big 8 of What Men Really Want Women to Do and Be Like

According to surveys done with thousands of men, here are the BIG 8 of what men really want women to do and be like.

How to please your man? Is he happy with me? What does he want me to do? These are just some of the questions that constantly plague women. We end up obsessing about it and ultimately jump to the wrong conclusions. This, is what they really want:

1) Guys absolutely love the attention that you splurge on them. Whether you are trying to attract them or have been in a relationship for a long time. Fuss over them and you will be richly rewarded for your effort.

2) Men are really attracted to women that are happy with themselves and how they look. Simple gestures that exert confidence turn them on. Your walk, flicking of your hair, your smile, simple gestures like touching your waste or bum. If you are confident in yourself and show interest in them - they feel special and singled out.

3) Guys love everything feminine about you (but in moderation!). Your perfume, your makeup, your girlie gestures and giggles. Key is to entice and not overpower. Too much can have quite the opposite effect.

4) Men adore it when you show others how you feel about them. Hug them in public, always look for their hand, mention how he makes you laugh and smile. Anything you can do that will "show him off" in front of others. Especially with people he either likes or feel insecure with, which means everybody!

5) Guys love your support. They might never admit to it, but they can rarely make up their minds about anything and is usually open for suggestion and persuasion. Take note of what is going on in his life, ask questions and show that his interests and problems are important to you.

6) Men want to know that sexually they are the absolute ultimate. They do not take kindly to rejection and even though you might not think so, they are concerned about whether they satisfied you or not. Show him, show him, show him and did I mention show him?

7) Guys find it quite a challenge to be serious. If you are playful in your approach it is something that is familiar to him that he can relate to. It eases anything from sex to conversation. Don't take yourself too serious, play around, it is one of our basic animal instincts.

8) Although men want to know that they are your moon and stars, they do not want your constant dependence. Having your own interests and hobbies is what makes you endearing, with the added bonus that they can spend some time on theirs.

Adhere to these and you are bound to make your husband, boyfriend or love interest the happiest man alive. And might I add, how they respond and what you get out of it is very rewarding.

(Source: ezinearticles.com)

Fun Date Ideas

Where do you go when you want to inject a bit of fun into a date, or are not quite ready to introduce a romantic date setting just quite yet? You hit one of these eight locations for some lighthearted, youthful excitement to share with someone special.

1. Amusement Park
Roller coasters, cotton candy and anti-gravity machines are a riot no matter who you are with, so bring a date and explore the merry-go-rounds, old fashioned photos, tilt-a-whirls, and water rides together. 

2. Arcade
Your favorite old school hangout may offer an inexpensive yet entertaining way to get to know someone better. Most arcades today offer a wide variety of games to play both new and old, providing the opportunity to run a space mission together, whack-a-mole, or even duke it out Mortal Kombat style. An added bonus is when you trade in your arcade tokens for a prize at the end of the night that your date can take home to remember the occasion.

3. Bowling
It may sound like a typical date idea, but when is the last time you went bowling? Many alleys now offer night bowling events specially geared towards dating couples such as laser bowling or singles leagues. Rent a pair of shoes, let the scoring machine do all of the hard work, and see who can strike out first. 

4. Comedy / Improv
If breaking the ice is a concern with your date, a comedy show or improv group may offer a solution. Spending the evening together laughing at the live antics in front of you can be a bonding experience, and you'll have plenty to talk about in between acts and after the show.

5. Dinner Theater
An interactive murder mystery-type dinner theater show is the perfect second or third date get-together. This way, you can interact with each other while participating first-hand in a memorable date neither will soon forget.

6. Interpretive Center
Depending on where you live will determine what kind of interpretive center you will have access to, but most cities and towns have at least one to choose from, such as a duck sanctuary, fur trading camp, salmon spawning center, wetland interpretive center or natural hot springs.

7. Planetarium
Not every town has a planetarium, but if yours does it is a fantastic place to hold hands, sit in the dark and explore the universe around you. Some also host weekend star-gazing events, where tour guides will show you and your date how to spot the major constellations. Then, use this information for a romantic date later on down the road – just the two of you on your balcony or in a park, trying to find the big dipper together.

(Source: dating.about.com)

40 Fun Questions to Ask Your Partner

As you embark on a new relationship, there are many things you’d like to know about your partner. Some things come up in the course of conversation. But there are many things that don’t just crop up in idle conversation. Or at other times you just want to have some fun with your lover and are curious to know what he’ll say in response to something.
Sometimes the questions may or may not have anything to do with your relationship, but they may still provide valuable insights into your partner’s psyche and personality. It can be a fun way to discover more about each other. You could decide to target two questions a week and both of you write down your answers to them on paper or email them to each other. Or simply share the answers verbally with each other, which has the added advantage of being able to laugh together at the responses you get. It can be especially fun if you’re just getting to know each other.

1. What was your first impression of me?
2. How accurate do you now think it was? On which counts do you think you were totally wrong and on which were you right?
3. What is your idea of a truly romantic evening?
4. If I promise not to get upset, can you tell me something that you’d like to change in me but don’t have the nerve to tell me?
5. If you weren’t in the profession you are, what would be your other dream profession and why?
6. Apart from the most obvious one, which other two areas of your body are the most sensitive and responsive?
7. Which three parts of my body are your personal favourites and why?
8. Can you name three qualities that attracted you when you met me/got to know me?
9. Which is your dream destination and why?
10. Which is your favourite movie of all time and favourite scene in it? (If the other hasn’t seen it, narrate in detail.)
11. Which fruit/vegetable do you think I resemble and why?
12. Can you remember your earliest childhood memory of happiness and that of fear?
13. Your favourite aunt/uncle/cousin and why?
14. What are the qualities that draw you to people that you can base a friendship on?
15. Can you give me a mock session of how you would discuss sex education when you have a child?
16. Your first crush – what drew you to her/him?
17. Your first date – where did you go, what did you do and how long did the relationship last?
18. How have you coped with break-ups in the past?
19. What has been your scariest dream? Which has been your most frequently recurring one?
20. Which has been the best decision you ever made?
21. Which is the decision you regret the most?
22. Can you narrate to me your proudest moment?
23. If you won the lottery, what are the first three things you would do and which are the five things you’ve been most longing for, that you would buy?
24. If your house was on fire and you had a chance to grab only five things before leaving, they would be…
25. If you were asked whom you would like to be born again as, the answer would be…
26. Which is your favourite flavour of ice cream, your favourite junk food and your favourite dessert?
27. Whose wardrobe would you most like to possess and why?
28. The one argument your parents had, that you would try and avoid with your partner, would be over…
29. Which is your favourite asset/body part on a man/woman and why?
30. The most embarrassing thing that ever happened to you was…
31. Your most wicked fantasy has got to be… (Be open to this one, if you react adversely, he/she will never feel free to confide in you again.)
32. If our relationship doesn’t work out, do you think we can remain friends? If no, why not?
33. Who are you closer to – your mum/dad - and why?
34. Your favourite song of all times and why – is it because of the lyrics, because of the memories associated with it or just the whole package?
35. If somebody handed you a magic lamp and gave you three wishes, what would they be?
36. What upsets you most in a relationship and what makes you the happiest?
37. What is your perception of how people see you?
38. If someone told you they saw me with another guy, what would your first reaction be – she’s cheating on me, he’s probably an old friend or I need to get to the bottom of this?
39. Can you think of something you craved for when you were young and were denied?
40. Have you ever found yourself attracted to someone of the same sex?

A word of advice. Don't be judgmental of the responses you get, and try and be truthful when answering. This can be a wonderful way to just have fun or really get to know your partner more deeply.

(Source: www.futurescopes.com)

10 Ways to Make a Woman Fall in Love With You

After you meet a woman and date her, you get to know her better. You probably start feeling closer to her and may even find yourself falling in love with her. But her feelings may still remain a mystery to you. You’re not even sure whether you’re doing things right. How can you get her to fall in love with you? Here are 10 ways that you can make a woman fall in love with you, and at the end of it, she’s sure to be crazy about you.

1. Display maturity
It’s always said that women mature faster than guys and are often found complaining about how immature they act. Impress her with the way you deal with situations and your outlook on the whole. Show her how responsible you are about finances, or serious you are about your career. And demonstrate your ability to think clearly and rationally when disagreements crop up or a conflict of interests presents itself. 

2. Romance her
Make her feel good by keeping the romance alive in the relationship. You don’t have to spend a whole lot of money doing this. Sure, there isn’t a woman alive who doesn’t adore flowers and gifts, but you can also do things that don’t cost a lot but can still enhance your relationship. Write her little notes or send her a mushy card. Call her up just to tell her you’re thinking about her and can’t wait to see her again. Be attentive and make her feel cherished and truly special.

3. Faithful
Don’t ever give her occasion to doubt you. Let her know that you have eyes only for her and the rest of the world takes a backseat. Let her sense your commitment to her and your relationship. Being able to trust someone and truly rely on him is a very powerful feeling. So many people profess deep feelings and then cheat on their partners. Don’t just tell her but show her that she can count on you. Women need to feel secure and once that is established, it takes the relationship to a higher level. 

4. Time spent with her is precious
Make it clear that you really treasure the time you spend with her, irrespective of what you’re doing together. And prove it! For instance, if she suddenly tells you she’d like to meet you because she’s finishing work early and you had something else lined up, cancel it for her. That doesn’t mean you cater to her to the exclusion of everything else, just that you sometimes sacrifice something you care about to be with her. If she begs you to come see a movie and you had plans with your buddies, do it for her and let her know subtly that you did. She will surely reward you! Women also love it if you do some girly stuff with them like shopping for lingerie, and aren’t afraid of sacrificing your masculinity in the process. It just makes you more of a man in their eyes! 

5. Compliment her
You don’t have to go over the top always telling her how good she looks or how gorgeous her hair is or what a lovely outfit she’s wearing. A compliment has more effect when it is sincere, well timed and often, out of the blue. While a woman always loves hearing that she’s looking good, you can’t keep telling her that. It will lose its charm eventually. A compliment is valued when there is a surprise element to it. Telling her how witty you find her, how her intelligence turns you on, appreciating how thoughtful and generous she can be, or her gentle nature, all these are deeper compliments, which, when paid sincerely, make the recipient feel ten feet tall.

6. Laughter
Use humor as your biggest ally. If she enjoys your company and looks forward to seeing you again, you’re rapidly becoming an addiction, and that’s just what you’re aiming for. It’s not about making her laugh over your one-liners and finding you hilarious. It’s more about being on the same wavelength and enjoying the other’s sense of humor too. Or finding humor in similar situations or having a favorite serial or sitcom, which you talk about and cracks you up. Finding the same joke funny, or sharing a smile, draws you closer and makes you feel like kindred spirits. It’s a great feeling!

7. Learn what turns her on
And use it to advantage. Find out just the kind of touch that excites her, how she loves to be kissed. Don’t ever push her for sex or make her uncomfortable by coming on too strong. Let her see the effect she has on you, yet keep a strong rein on your passions if she decides she wants to call a stop to it. Let her set the pace, and ensure she understands that while your desires for her are strong, you will respect the limits she sets. Respect her and her body and she will appreciate you more for it. Women love it when they can see how much they turn you on and yet find you willing to take it slow for their sake. Also, when you make love to her, don’t always kiss her or caress her as a lead up to having sex. Do it just to make her feel special and because you want to convey that to her, and she will adore you for it. 

8. Give her space
Don’t be possessive and make her account to you regarding her whereabouts. Let her know you trust her. Don’t expect her to spend all her free time with you. Let her have her own life too. Often when in a relationship, people make the mistake of spending every waking moment that they can manage together, and in the process, alienate themselves from friends and even lose their identity. Let her be her own person.

9. Thoughtful
You remember little things she told you, and remind her of it at opportune moments. It may be that she once mentioned she loves having chicken soup when she’s got a cold, and you land up with some when she’s got the sniffles. Or she’s told you how she adores a particular entrée at a popular restaurant and the next time you go there, you order it and surprise her. It makes her feel like you genuinely listen to her and take the trouble to act on it and make her happy.

10. “I love you”
And of course, while showing her should give her the message, there’s a lot to be said for saying it loud and clear. Tell her how important she is to you. You might want to think about when you’re first going to tell her those three words. If it's too early in the relationship, she might be skeptical that you could feel so deeply so soon. And thereafter, it's not just choosing the right moment, but making every small moment count. You don’t have to wait only till you’re kissing her, or in bed. Saying it when it's least expected makes it all the more precious. She might be telling you something and the feeling just overwhelms you – tell her at that instant. She won’t mind being interrupted mid-sentence!

(Source: www.futurescopes.com)

Flirting Tips for Men

1. Know what you want and what is reasonable to expect

Some men flirt with women primarily to get sex. However, if you put aside that outcome and flirt just to be friendly you are opening yourself to different opportunities. You may well end up with a new lover but if that doesn’t work out you could meet someone who becomes a good friend and who knows who she might introduce you to. Keep your options open.

2. Make sure your hair is clean and your body and breath smell good.
You don’t have to douse yourself in after-shave, just take care of personal hygiene at the basic level. As like seeks like, dirty unwashed people will end up with dirty unwashed people! Fine if it suits you but if you are looking for something else……

3. Great States are catching
People love being around charismatic people because they seem to spread good feelings. Get yourself into the right state for flirting and go for it. The Flirting Weekend is designed to teach you how to feel good about yourself so that others will feel good about you.

4. When you buy a woman a drink, that is all you are buying
Don’t expect her to fall at your feet. Sometimes it is nice just to send someone a drink, watch when they receive it and smile, then look away – look back again later to show your interest. Don’t try to get a woman drunk – isn’t it preferable to have someone like you genuinely not because their senses are obliterated by alcohol. And think twice if you think you HAVE to buy a drink to impress.  

5. Don’t do the rounds of a group of women
No woman wants to feel like second best. Refrain from approaching one after another in the same group. You look like a loser and the women may think you are desperate – any port in a storm Even if you are, don’t show it.

6. Concentrate on the conversation, not on getting a date.
Most women want to know what kind of person they are going out with. Make an effort to get to know her before diving in for a date

7. Give GENUINE compliments
There’s nothing worse than someone giving out a load of overblown lines. Everyone has something great about them, notice that and compliment them genuinely.

6. Keep your hands to yourself and respect their space
There are some people I call space invaders. Even when engaging in a casual chat they just seem to get too close. Some women have no objection to ‘touchy feely’ encounters, others are horrified by it. Respect the person until you have sussed out more about her. Touching can be a lovely flirty action, but should be confined to the arms or resting the hand just above the arms and NOT touching, until you know more. Test the personal space by moving closer, noticing the reactions then moving back a little to remove the threat

7. If you ask for a phone number, be sure you want to use it
Flirting and meeting people is NOT about trophy hunting it is about making new connections and having fun. If you don't intend to use the number, don't ask. There’s nothing worse than giving out a phone number and not having someone call. If you asked for it, use it .

8. Keep your self respect.  
Women always fall for men who are that little bit unreachable. Don't hover or grovel or be desperate. Think of yourself as special and know what you deserve.

And finally:

Be yourself. It’s no point in assuming a role you think someone wants you to play because you’ll get found out sooner or later. Be proud of who you are and if you aren’t YET sure how you are at your best, you might want to do some work on it. There are plenty of courses and self-help books out there.

(Source: www.flirtzone.com)

5 Interesting Ways To Ask For Her Phone Number

1. Never ask a woman you’ve just met for her phone number if you have done all of the talking but none of the listening. Why would a woman want to go out with you, when all you’ve done is talk at her instead of asking her questions and trying to find out about her. Who wants to go out with “the chronic talker?”

Conversation is a 50/50 deal. So, never just walk over to a woman, talk at her for two minutes, and then demand a phone number from her. You will likely not be pleased with her response.

2. When you are deciding whether to ask a woman for her phone number, it doesn’t matter for how long you’ve been talking to her. All that matters is how well you connected with her during that conversation.

When I meet a woman to whom I’m attracted – no matter whether I’m in a video store, the supermarket or a coffee shop – I am always finding out about her during our conversation. Just because a woman is pretty, doesn’t mean I want to go out with her. I have to find out about her. In order for me to be interested, I have to find her interesting and intriguing. This may only take a minute or two.

If I like the way the conversation is going in those first few minutes, I’ll say to her “Look, I’ve got to run but I’d like to carry this conversation over to another day. Give me your number and I’ll give you a call.” If you are responding to what each other is saying, and you’re both enjoying the conversation, then you should ask her out.

3. If a woman is with a group of friends, then the way to ask her for her phone number is to talk to all her friends. Don’t just walk over and start talking to the one in whom you’re interested. Talk to all of them.

If you show her that you are a friendly guy, and you get her friends to like you, then after you leave her friends will be speaking positively about you. You want her friends talking about you. It’s like having your own personal fan club.

Most guys make the mistake of only talking to the woman in whom he’s interested. When you do this, then you get the opposite reaction from her friends after you leave. What will happen is that after you leave, her friends are going to be saying: “Why would you go out with him? He’s so rude!” This is why you want to get her friends to like you.

What you do after you have entertained all of them and had good conversations with everyone, is you pull the woman you’re interested in aside by saying “C’mere one second. I’ve got to ask you something.” After you’ve pulled her away from her friends, then ask her out and get her phone number. After you leave, she’ll run back to her friends feeling really great that you chose her over all her other friends.

4. Respect a woman’s time. Let’s say you spot a woman in a bar who is with her friends. You wait until she goes alone to the bar to make your move, and you end up having a great conversation with her while you’re standing at the bar.

What I suggest in this situation is that you don’t monopolize her time. She is out to have a good time with her friends – acknowledge that. After you have chatted with her for a few minutes, and you have established that the two of you get along well, tell her “I don’t want to keep you from your friends. Why don’t you give me your number and we’ll get together another time.”

By doing this, you distinguish yourself from every other guy in the bar. Most guys would monopolize her time, thinking that they need to talk to her for some minimum amount of time before they can ask her for her number. Not true – be different by being respectful of her time and she will want to give you her number. This actually segues really well into number 5.

5. A woman will not only want to give you her phone number, but will also look forward to your call, if you make her want more of you. This is accomplished with two extremely powerful techniques I call “giving your best two minutes” and “using the power of the walk away.” Use these and you will always leave a woman wanting more.

Have you ever had a connection with a woman that was great for the first few minutes . . . then you sabotaged the conversation because you started to over think the situation and got nervous? If you meet a woman you’re attracted to and are having a great conversation with her – no matter where you are – it is ALWAYS better to excuse yourself while the conversation is good so you leave her wanting more.

Think about how you feel when you’re talking to someone who is really intriguing and they have to leave. When they walk away from you, you want more (not less) of them. This is what I call the power of walking away. Keep her thinking and wondering about you, and she’ll be looking forward to your phone call.

You can ask a woman out and ask for her phone number within 30 seconds, two minutes or ten minutes of meeting her. It doesn’t matter. It’s not about the amount of time you’ve spent with her . . . it’s about how well you listen to her and how great the conversation is going.

So the next time you’re wondering if you should ask a woman for her phone number, my advice to you is this: 

Go for it! 

It’s better to ask a woman out and find out whether she’s interested, than to waste valuable time over the next few days wondering what could have been.

Why Women Fall In Love With Older Man

If you are a man and you're over 35 years old, if you are attracted by younger women but you are afraid of being rejected or not to be taken seriously, you will find out the real thing about this issue in this article.

Let's state an irrefutable fact: most women over 25 and single are already disappointed by men of their age.

And their big problem is to find a mature man that can satisfy their needs.

Here is another fact: in most cases men reach their maturity level after the age of 30.

These women believe that older men won't break their hearts the way younger men have done; they believe that an older man will have the commitment and the willingness required for a long term relationship.

Age indicates maturity, and decision making ability.

Many people believe couples with the same age don't respect each other.

Younger women, on the other hand, enjoy having someone take care of them and are attracted to an older person's accomplishments, economic stability and EMOTIONAL MATURITY.

Make sure you share similar life views and goals, despite your age difference.

Do you both appreciate each other's friends? Do you share the same principles when it comes to family?

So, an age difference of 7 - 15 years can lead to a really great relationship if both partners are willing to. That's because we don't choose who we fall in love with, it simply happens.

(Source: www.datingclass.com)

Signs That He Loves You

1. He tells you 
If he says those three words and says them often, count yourself lucky. A lot of men assume that their women know they're loved and don't really tell them often enough. If he realizes your need to hear him say he loves you, and he means every word of it, he's truly one of a kind. A man may not say the actual words but imply as much when he tells you how fortunate he feels to have you in his life. 

2. He shows you 
Some men aren't exactly good with words and expressing their feelings. But they choose their own avenues of expression. This kind of guy does things, little or big to show you how much you mean to him. That may include ordering take-away when he thinks you need a break from cooking or taking the kids off your hands so that you can have some time to yourself. Yes, you may need to hear the words from him, but have you never heard that 'actions speak louder than words?' 

3. He makes you feel special 
And then there's the man who's always trying to keep the romance alive. He brings you flowers or wakes up extra early to bring you breakfast in bed. He's always going out of his way to make you feel exceptional. 

4. He's happy around you 
He sometimes foregoes time with his guy friends just to be with you. It may be because you've been feeling particularly low or you haven't spent enough time together lately or just because he feels good to be with you. If he can't get enough of you it's a sure sign that he's got it bad. 


5. He listens to you 
We're not talking 'You command, he obeys'. But when you're talking, he's genuinely interested in what you're saying and gives you his undivided attention. He looks at you (not at the television blaring in the background or the newspaper in his hand), responds appropriately and gives you the idea that he's really concerned about your concerns. 

6. He compliments you 
He notices when you make an effort with your appearance and appreciates it. He tells you which things suit you and add to your look. It always feels great to dress up but when he looks up admiringly and tells you so, you know you matter. 


7. He takes care of you 
If he babies you when you're sick and nurses you back to health, you can be pretty sure you've got a good thing going. If your comfort level is so high that you can look most miserable and still be secure enough in his love, you've got it made. Marriage vows don't include the "In good times and bad, in sickness and health" clause for nothing. Rose, a high-flying career woman, recalls the time she was suffering from a stomach infection and feeling wretched. "I was running a high fever and feeling like my stomach was turned inside out. The only thing that made me feel like I should hasten my recovery was Marvin, my boyfriend. He was like a guardian angel. He soothed my fevered brow and held the bowl while I puked my guts out. If ever I had any doubt about his undying devotion for me, it was quelled at that instant." 

8. His friends and family respect you 
Sometimes you can gauge how a man feels about you from the way his circle of friends and close family behave around you. If they hold you in high regard, you can be sure he's been telling them just how happy he is to have you in his life. 

9. He appreciates your worth 
Sometimes men choose more indirect ways of expressing their true feelings. He may not actually tell you he loves you or even do anything special. But he may tell you how proud he is of your achievements or what a good mother you are or even how well you run the house. You may even find him praising you to the skies to family or acquaintances. 


10. He asks for your opinion 
When important decisions are at stake, either concerning him or both of you jointly or even the kids, he doesn't just go ahead and do what he thinks is right. He asks for your advice and not just for the sake of it. He often considers it and may even go by it. Or if he doesn't, he tells you why he didn't. 


11. He takes your feelings into account 
If something upsets you concerning his family or friends, he tries to see your side of it. He feels for you and even if he's seen you cry a thousand times before, he still tries to make you feel better and has that tissue box at hand. 

12. He's interested in what you want too

Let's say you're both watching television and you want to watch Oprah, while he'd like to catch Arsenal v/s Chelsea. You know how men are where football is concerned! If he lets you watch your choice of program, not just grudgingly but because he loves to see you happy, you've got a winner. And if he actually sits through it just because he wants to be by your side, you know he's a goner!

(Source: www.futurescopes.com)