Creative Activities for Couples

After several years together, routine can set in and take a toll on a couple. What was once exciting and new can become mundane and somewhat boring. To liven up a relationship, couples should experiment with new activities and projects. Regardless of their interests and budgets, most couples can find new adventures to increase the quality of their time together.

Squirt Gun Fight
All you need is a group of friends and a set of squirt guns filled with colored water (food coloring usually works best). An inexpensive alternative to paint ball, the game is similar. Two teams, each with different-colored water, fight until only one person is left untouched by the other team. It's an ideal activity to help couples work together, spend time with friends and get outside when the weather gets warm. For a rematch, teams can change guns and play again.

Couples Projects
Homes are filled with chores and things that need to get done, fixed or put together. Spend a day or afternoon together checking these things off the to-do list. Put together a swing set, paint a room or figure out how to retile a kitchen backsplash. Not only can you complete a few tasks, but also by planning and purchasing ahead of time, the whole process brings couples together. Afterward, it offers a chance to celebrate.

Cooking Class
Widely available and usually budget-friendly, couples cooking classes are a fun way to learn a practical skill. Even those without a culinary bone in their bodies can find a class to fit their level. Start with a simple class for casual training or challenge yourselves with advanced meals and recipes; either way, you're guaranteed a unique bonding experience. This skill can be transferred to "real life," where couples can spend a night cooking together at home after strolling through markets shopping for ingredients. Most schools and community centers provide cooking classes, and most of their schedules can be found online.

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Why Is Dating Important?

In the past, arranged marriages were common, and families chose the appropriate husbands or wives for their children. As years passed, society has moved away from the arranged marriage concept to dating. Dating holds many advantages by allowing partners to evaluating both physical and emotional attraction between each other and showing potential red flags which may signal an unhealthy relationship . Dating may better prepare couples to make informed choices about long-term relationships and marriage.

Common Interests

One of the most obvious reasons people date is to find out what interests they share with the other person. The saying opposites attract doesn't hold much weight in the dating world. Each person should have their own interests, but if two people hate the activities the other one likes then they'll never find anything to do together. It also limits what a couple can talk about when interests fall on opposite ends.

Life Goals

Life goals may not seem important at the start of a relationship, but soon the couple should know what each person wants. Both short-term and long-term goals matter. For the short term, couples will want to know if both people want an exclusive relationship or if one prefers an open relationship. This in itself can make or break even a casual relationship. Later on if the relationship gets serious, couples should know what they both want to do in life. If a man wants children and a woman doesn't, this will cause stress on the relationship later on.

Views

Views on everything from religion to politics may play a part in a relationship. The important factor is not so much what each person believes, but how different these beliefs are and how devoted each person is to the beliefs. Two open-minded people from different religions may have no problems in a relationship. On the other hand, two people whose religions teach they should not date outside their religion may feel guilty or have trouble with the relationship.

Red Flags

Dating also shows someone what the other person acts like on a day-to-day basis. At the start of a relationship, a person may appear sweet and caring, but over time red flags can appear. An unhealthy relationship often shows more and more signs as time goes on, and dating allows people to watch out for these signs. Disrespect, emotional abuse, jealous tendencies and a person who angers easily and becomes aggressive are all red flags that signal an unhealthy relationship.

Physical Attraction

Finally, dating allows two people to judge their physical attraction to each other. Physical attraction alone will not make a healthy relationship, while a good personality alone does not guarantee happiness either. For a relationship to work, both people need to find the other interesting and attractive at the same time. Days may come where one person doesn't quite feel the spark, but it shouldn't go missing permanently.

(Source: ehow.com)

Top 10 Romantic Date Ideas

Romantic date ideas can cement a new relationship or put the passion back into an old one. They can heal the wounds of recent arguments and take away the stresses of your day.

So we've taken all the date ideas we've heard of and after fierce debate we've cut it down to the top 10 soppy and romantic date ideas. Expect candles and roses for every one! (what? candles and roses are romantic!)

Coming in at number 10 is:

10. Cuddling up with a book together on a cold day

Sometimes the simple things are the most romantic, on a freezing cold day then snuggling up in each others arms on the sofa in front of the fire with a good book can be very intimate and romantic evening.

Enjoy the closeness of each other bodies, the warmth, their perfume/aftershave, savour the quiet and the peace of just being there with the one you love. Grab some warm drinks and either read parts of a book out to each other or just read page by page silently together, just make sure to turn the page over before your partner has finished to wind them up and start a play fight ;)

9. Candlelit dinner and bathtub recollections

Spend the night getting all wrinkly! Have a nice candlelit dinner together, then head up to the bathroom, go for the full monty, candles everywhere, superhot bath, a whole bottle of bubblebath, maybe some relaxing music (battery radio - nothing in the mains please!).

Then grab yourself some red wine and both of you get into the bath together, go for the 'debating' style double-bath where you are on either end of the tub, or the 'lovers embrace' (my fave) where one of you sits in between the legs of the other and leans back into their loving embrace.

Then spend a few hours (yes hours, top up the hot water as you need to) reminiscing about your old dates, maybe about how you met as well. Try to remember good and bad dates and try to remember ones you partner has forgotten about.

You will have a laugh and joke and remind each other of all the good times you have had together, by the end of the bath you'll be all loved up, definitely relaxed, and you'll have strengthened your bond together.

8. Star gazing

There is something romantic about looking at the stars, whether seeing the infinite size of the cold and dark universe around us makes us more appreciative of the people we love, or whether we just enjoy them because they look like little sparkling sky diamonds, either way, they ARE romantic.

So grab yourself a blanket and the duvet off your bed. Head out into your backyard, put the blanket on the ground as a groundsheet, then climb onto it under the duvet.

While you're out there try to get some candles going for added effect ;)

Then lie back with the one you love and look at the stars together while entwined in each others arms. Open your minds and start to take in the sheer scale of what you are looking at, light that is billions of years old hitting your retina from a far away galaxy, stars that dwarf our sun, infinite variety and wonders just out of our reach.

Then snuggle up closer and appreciate you managed to find your perfect shining star (awwwww - tell them that for added brownie points).

Competition is getting more fierce now, we're looking for date ideas that capture the imagination or bring your closer together, so coming up the inside to position number 7 is:

7. A wine and good times special

Simple but effective, grab yourself a bottle of wine and all your photo albums, you know - the ones you have so painstakingly crafted over the years but never 'had the time' to look at again. Preferably if you can then dredge up childhood photo albums of you and your partner as well.

Then put some soft music on, grab some of that wine for each of you, snuggle up on the sofa and go through the albums slowly by candlelight. Savour the moments you have enjoyed together and laugh at the awful photos that are a part of every photo album!

6. Capture the moment

Ok, we've spoken a lot about going over all the good times you've had in your relationship so far. Well this date takes it a step further. During the day dig a hole in the backyard...

Then in the evening grab some wine again (I'm not addicted to wine, honest...) and make items for a time capsule of your relationship. Put in a newspaper clipping of the paper for that day to show the date and current news of the day you did it. Write letters to each other that you do or don't read to each other before they go in (my preference would be not to).

Draw pictures for each other, takes photos to put in there, put little keepsake items in there, anything you want ,write poems to each other. Please bear in mind that it needs to be an airtight container, airtight tupperware will do it, but you can buy inexpensive time capsule kits to do it as well - anything else means in a year or two the contents will be mush.

The when you're both slightly tipsy from the wine go out with your sealed capsule (make sure it's sealed!) and bury it together and go back in and watch a soppy film (by candelight to make it romantic... getting sick on candles yet??!)

Then in the future you can either uncover it after say 5 years, or 50 years, or you might uncover it accidentally one day if you have forgotten about it.

Just try to remember it if you are going to move house...

We're getting more adventurous now for number 5:

5. Champagne hot air balloon trip

Hot air balloon trips are just another of those things that are instantly romantic, maybe it is the pageantry of them setting up this huge contraption just for you two, or the silent ascent into the heavens? and effortlessly gliding over the landscape below?

Well turn it into a sunset trip with champagne then you have a really memorable romantic experience! Until you have experienced your first balloon ride then you don't know what you are missing!

Now we're into the top 4 romantic date ideas, expect sunsets, candles, the works!

4. Romantic camping

Alright, camping is not everybody's idea of romantic, so you can substitute the camping part for a swanky hotel near a beach if you want!

The idea is that your head off away from your local area to find a spot near a nice beach that not a lot of people visit (touristy beaches are just going to be full of noisy people even at night). Camp somewhere nearby (or get a swanky hotel) and then at sunset go down to the beach and sit there together watching the sun set over the ocean as the last rays of sunshine melt into the distance...

Then head back to your camp/hotel for a night of telling ghost stories round the campfire/ordering room service and telling ghost stories in bed with the lights off!

3. Private dining room

A candlelit dinner at a restaurant is ok, but we've all done it right? That means it loses its effectiveness, you can't make it to number 3 with just a normal candlelit dinner out somewhere. Instead find a restaurant that has a conference/meeting room for hire, now on a Friday/Saturday night not many people want meetings so it will be free...

Phone up the restaurant and ask them if they are willing to let you hire it for a meal, they just need to clear the room and put a tabel for two in the middle of it and put some candles around the room for you. It is important if you are going to do this that you go to check out the room before you agree to anything, it will show you are serious when you turn up in person as well. You want a room that will be romantic when lit by candles and emptied of all the meeting stuff, not something with whiteboards on the wall etc!

Trust me there are plenty of places out there that have something perfect for this - or find one that has a private dining room, but do it during the week when not many people want to use it so you get it cheap, I had a private dining room all to myself midweek with a swanky 3 course meal and more candles than you can shake a stick at for $100!

Go out for a few drinks first, and then arrive for the best meal ever! (I mentioned roses at the start, as I haven't included them anywhere yet then get some put on the table for this date!)

Try this for an anniversary for added effect.

A cheaper but even more potent version follows later, but at number 2 is:

2. Sunset picnic

Sunsets are romantic right? They are like giant candles and candles are romantic ;) Picnics are also romantic... so combine the two!

Grab yourself a picnic, all your and your partner's favourites, then look up the sunset time online, most weather sites will tell you. You need to have scouted out a hill near you first that has a good view all round and is quiet :) Try one on a local footpath like I did, so you have permission to be there!

Then knowing how long it takes you to get there... set out at the correct time to get to the hill 10 minutes before the sunset time. Set up your picnic and enjoy a glass of champagne together along with the picnic while watching the sun go down.

Don't worry about finding the west, that is why you need a hill with clear view all around, so you can find the sunset when you get up there!

(You also need a clear sky preferably, hence why this is number 2 as it can be fiddly!)

And finally...

1. Recreate your first date

The sheer soppiness of this date makes it shoot to number 1, even though the actual places you go might not be that romantic.

There are two options here, either recreate the first date exactly, or recreate it how it was meant to go... like if one of you was late, then do you turn up late again to make it authentic? If you ended up going for a walk in the park instead of that drink in the bar as one of you was turned away for having the wrong dress code, do you turn up properly dressed and have the drink you were supposed to have instead? The choice is yours!

There are also two ways to act, you can act like you are both on your first date, a bit of roleplay to give it an exciting edge... get to know each other all over again and one of you try to steal that first nervous kiss...

Or you can go into it as you are and laugh and talk about the parts of the date you are on at that moment and what happened and how you felt on the night. This can be a great bonding experience as when you went on that first date you wouldn't have discussed all your fears and all the things that went wrong that the other person didn't notice - you get to reveal them now and see the first date from a fresh perspective, what went well and what didn't!

There you go - the top romantic date ideas for you to enjoy!

(Source: www.myromanticdateideas.com)

Cheap Dating Ideas - Inexpensive Dating for Those on a Budget

When you date someone, you want to make an impression on her. This is especially if it's one of your first few dates and you would like to take it further. But what if money is tight and you just don't have the means to do fancy stuff and wine and dine her? Yet, you don't want to seem like a cheapskate and have her think that she's anything less than special to you.

But whoever said that to have an enjoyable time with someone, you had to spend a lot of money? You can enjoy each other's company even on a shoestring budget. Some couples have had great dates with little money but a lot of imagination. Maybe you can learn from them.

Some of the all-time favorite cheap date ideas:
 
1. A walk in the park 
Take a leisurely stroll with your date through rambling paths and lush greenery. Walk hand-in-hand and talk about your interests, family, trees, nature, anything! The cost for leading her up the garden path - zilch! 

2. Go for a jog 
If you and your date are up for it, put on your track pants and running shoes and head out for a jog. While the jog itself won't give you much opportunity to talk, it's always great to work up a sweat together. And afterwards, you can stretch together and maybe you can even give her an impromptu massage to soothe those aching muscles. That's called 'Giving her a run for (no) money'! 

3. The beach 
This one's an all-time favorite. You don't need to shell out any entrance fee and it is one of the most romantic places to be. Whether you take a walk on the sand, lounge around on a chair tanning yourself, surf or just fool around in the water, the beach must surely be one of the most popular 'cheap date' locations. 

4. Sports 
If you and your date both happen to be the athletic types and love a particular sport, this could be the ideal alternative for you. Indulge in a little competitive activity to get the adrenaline pumping. It could be table tennis, badminton or even squash. But be a man and take it in the right spirit if she beats you! 

5. Go for a swim 
You might like to go for a swim together at the local club. This gives you the additional advantage of checking her out in a swimsuit! And if you're a good swimmer and she's not, you can impress her with some cool strokes or maybe even teach her some. Different strokes for different folks! If you're more adventurous, you could even go skinny dipping. 

6. A picnic 
Picture a cozy brunch or lunch for two in a nice meadow. You could spread out a cool picnic mat, take some sandwiches and if you're really lucky, she may even feed you some of those grapes you've carried along. Only, make sure you pick a spot where you don't get attacked by an army of ants! 

7. Community center activities 
Check out some of the activities at your local community center and ask your date if she'd be interested in anything. You could have a really good time, and in the process, discover a fun side to your date, that you never knew existed. 
 
8. Go sight-seeing 
Sometimes you discover historic landmarks in your city that have minimal or no entrance fee. It could even be a museum, if either of you are into that kind of thing. Either way, it gives you a lot to talk about and it makes for interesting conversation. One of you may even decide to play tourist guide and ask for payment..in kind! 

9. Movie/meal at home 
Check out the Top Ten Movie list and rent one your date will enjoy. Make sure you find out what his/her taste in movies is, you wouldn't want to choose an action movie if she really prefers a romantic comedy. Or invite him over to a home-cooked meal, or even better yet, prepare it together. It might be great to see how you work together as a team and you'll be surprised how much fun you have in the process. In this case, even if 'Too many cooks spoil the broth', you wouldn't really mind! 

10. Window-shopping 
If it's the festive season, enjoy the originality and creativity of the window displays with your date. Or go shopping together and pick out stuff you think you might like to buy, but don't buy it. It's great to see what the other person's tastes are, and this way, when you do have some money and you're stuck for gift options, you know exactly what he/she fancies. 

11. Coffee shop 
Coffee and a couple of doughnuts won't cost you too much. So linger over your cuppa, inhale the aroma of freshly brewed coffee and enjoy the company of your date in a relaxed and friendly setting. 

12. Book reading/Library 
If your date is the literary type, take her along to a book reading; she might really appreciate the effort taken on her account. Or visit the library together and spend some quiet time just being with each other or exchanging love notes! 

13. Go for a drive 
You could take your date for a drive to a quiet place or somewhere that has a picturesque view. Sit in the car just holding hands and talking or doing whatever you do best! Or sit on the bonnet with your arms wrapped around each other, watching the sun go down. One of the most romantic views, and all it costs is the fuel it took you to get there. 

14. Go trekking 
If you like adventure, and you think your date might be up for it, go hiking. Choose a scenic route so that it's not all huffing and puffing and you can stop and admire nature at her best. Carry along enough supplies and choose a nice spot, like maybe a waterfall or somewhere with verdant pastures to catch your breath and relax in each other's company. 

15. Go camping 
This one requires your date to be the down-to-earth type or at least open to roughing it out. If you don't already have camping equipment, borrow it from a friend and brush up your boy-scout skills. Enjoy the chirruping of the birds and the beauty of the wild outdoors with your date. 

16. Bicycle ride 
If you don't own one, rent a couple of bicycles and take a leisurely ride in the countryside. Have races; enjoy the breeze in your hair and the sun shining down on your face! 

17. Visit a park 
Choose a park that has an area for kids and act silly together. Have a whale of a time on the seesaws and maybe enjoy the lulling rhythm of the bench swings.  

18. Try out something new 
If your date is up for adventure, try out a new sport, hobby or activity like ice-skating. Providing you don't take any nasty spills, it could be a great way to have a few laughs together. It also gives you the chance to keep holding on to your date on the pretext of steadying her (or yourself!). 

19. Sit by the fireplace 
Invite your date over and get a roaring fire going. Roast marshmallows together and get cozy on the rug by the fireplace. Easy on the pocket, isn't it? 

20. Play games
There are a variety of board games like Scrabble, Dominoes, Monopoly or even a game of cards that provide light-hearted entertainment, without making even a dent in your wallet. 

21. Go fishing 
You might like to laze around in the sun in an idyllic spot, on the pretext of fishing. But if you do happen to be lucky enough to catch some trout, that's your meal guaranteed as well! 

22. Sit by the lake 
Settle down on a bench by the lake, to feed the geese and carry along some snacks to munch on as well. Chat about life and soak in the peaceful scenery, all for free. 

23. Bird-watching 
If you're a nature buff, grab your binoculars and your date and head out to a nature park or a popular bird-watching site. On the pretext of showing your date some rare bird, enjoy a few close encounters! And what you may lack in your wallet, you can make up for with your eloquence. Turn your binoculars on her and tell her that you're looking at the rarest bird of all!

In fact, no matter where you take your date or what you decide to do, don't be perturbed by what you think is a cheap alternative. You don't even have to be a scintillating conversationalist. If you treat a lady right and show her that you've made an extra effort to make her feel special, even if it doesn't cost much, she'll still feel like a queen!  

(Source: www.futurescopes.com)

10 Ways to Make a Woman Fall in Love With You

After you meet a woman and date her, you get to know her better. You probably start feeling closer to her and may even find yourself falling in love with her. But her feelings may still remain a mystery to you. You’re not even sure whether you’re doing things right. How can you get her to fall in love with you? Here are 10 ways that you can make a woman fall in love with you, and at the end of it, she’s sure to be crazy about you.

1. Display maturity
It’s always said that women mature faster than guys and are often found complaining about how immature they act. Impress her with the way you deal with situations and your outlook on the whole. Show her how responsible you are about finances, or serious you are about your career. And demonstrate your ability to think clearly and rationally when disagreements crop up or a conflict of interests presents itself. 

2. Romance her
Make her feel good by keeping the romance alive in the relationship. You don’t have to spend a whole lot of money doing this. Sure, there isn’t a woman alive who doesn’t adore flowers and gifts, but you can also do things that don’t cost a lot but can still enhance your relationship. Write her little notes or send her a mushy card. Call her up just to tell her you’re thinking about her and can’t wait to see her again. Be attentive and make her feel cherished and truly special.

3. Faithful
Don’t ever give her occasion to doubt you. Let her know that you have eyes only for her and the rest of the world takes a backseat. Let her sense your commitment to her and your relationship. Being able to trust someone and truly rely on him is a very powerful feeling. So many people profess deep feelings and then cheat on their partners. Don’t just tell her but show her that she can count on you. Women need to feel secure and once that is established, it takes the relationship to a higher level. 

4. Time spent with her is precious
Make it clear that you really treasure the time you spend with her, irrespective of what you’re doing together. And prove it! For instance, if she suddenly tells you she’d like to meet you because she’s finishing work early and you had something else lined up, cancel it for her. That doesn’t mean you cater to her to the exclusion of everything else, just that you sometimes sacrifice something you care about to be with her. If she begs you to come see a movie and you had plans with your buddies, do it for her and let her know subtly that you did. She will surely reward you! Women also love it if you do some girly stuff with them like shopping for lingerie, and aren’t afraid of sacrificing your masculinity in the process. It just makes you more of a man in their eyes! 

5. Compliment her
You don’t have to go over the top always telling her how good she looks or how gorgeous her hair is or what a lovely outfit she’s wearing. A compliment has more effect when it is sincere, well timed and often, out of the blue. While a woman always loves hearing that she’s looking good, you can’t keep telling her that. It will lose its charm eventually. A compliment is valued when there is a surprise element to it. Telling her how witty you find her, how her intelligence turns you on, appreciating how thoughtful and generous she can be, or her gentle nature, all these are deeper compliments, which, when paid sincerely, make the recipient feel ten feet tall.

6. Laughter
Use humor as your biggest ally. If she enjoys your company and looks forward to seeing you again, you’re rapidly becoming an addiction, and that’s just what you’re aiming for. It’s not about making her laugh over your one-liners and finding you hilarious. It’s more about being on the same wavelength and enjoying the other’s sense of humor too. Or finding humor in similar situations or having a favorite serial or sitcom, which you talk about and cracks you up. Finding the same joke funny, or sharing a smile, draws you closer and makes you feel like kindred spirits. It’s a great feeling!

7. Learn what turns her on
And use it to advantage. Find out just the kind of touch that excites her, how she loves to be kissed. Don’t ever push her for sex or make her uncomfortable by coming on too strong. Let her see the effect she has on you, yet keep a strong rein on your passions if she decides she wants to call a stop to it. Let her set the pace, and ensure she understands that while your desires for her are strong, you will respect the limits she sets. Respect her and her body and she will appreciate you more for it. Women love it when they can see how much they turn you on and yet find you willing to take it slow for their sake. Also, when you make love to her, don’t always kiss her or caress her as a lead up to having sex. Do it just to make her feel special and because you want to convey that to her, and she will adore you for it. 

8. Give her space
Don’t be possessive and make her account to you regarding her whereabouts. Let her know you trust her. Don’t expect her to spend all her free time with you. Let her have her own life too. Often when in a relationship, people make the mistake of spending every waking moment that they can manage together, and in the process, alienate themselves from friends and even lose their identity. Let her be her own person.

9. Thoughtful
You remember little things she told you, and remind her of it at opportune moments. It may be that she once mentioned she loves having chicken soup when she’s got a cold, and you land up with some when she’s got the sniffles. Or she’s told you how she adores a particular entrée at a popular restaurant and the next time you go there, you order it and surprise her. It makes her feel like you genuinely listen to her and take the trouble to act on it and make her happy.

10. “I love you”
And of course, while showing her should give her the message, there’s a lot to be said for saying it loud and clear. Tell her how important she is to you. You might want to think about when you’re first going to tell her those three words. If it's too early in the relationship, she might be skeptical that you could feel so deeply so soon. And thereafter, it's not just choosing the right moment, but making every small moment count. You don’t have to wait only till you’re kissing her, or in bed. Saying it when it's least expected makes it all the more precious. She might be telling you something and the feeling just overwhelms you – tell her at that instant. She won’t mind being interrupted mid-sentence!

(Source: www.futurescopes.com)

Flirting Tips for Men

1. Know what you want and what is reasonable to expect

Some men flirt with women primarily to get sex. However, if you put aside that outcome and flirt just to be friendly you are opening yourself to different opportunities. You may well end up with a new lover but if that doesn’t work out you could meet someone who becomes a good friend and who knows who she might introduce you to. Keep your options open.

2. Make sure your hair is clean and your body and breath smell good.
You don’t have to douse yourself in after-shave, just take care of personal hygiene at the basic level. As like seeks like, dirty unwashed people will end up with dirty unwashed people! Fine if it suits you but if you are looking for something else……

3. Great States are catching
People love being around charismatic people because they seem to spread good feelings. Get yourself into the right state for flirting and go for it. The Flirting Weekend is designed to teach you how to feel good about yourself so that others will feel good about you.

4. When you buy a woman a drink, that is all you are buying
Don’t expect her to fall at your feet. Sometimes it is nice just to send someone a drink, watch when they receive it and smile, then look away – look back again later to show your interest. Don’t try to get a woman drunk – isn’t it preferable to have someone like you genuinely not because their senses are obliterated by alcohol. And think twice if you think you HAVE to buy a drink to impress.  

5. Don’t do the rounds of a group of women
No woman wants to feel like second best. Refrain from approaching one after another in the same group. You look like a loser and the women may think you are desperate – any port in a storm Even if you are, don’t show it.

6. Concentrate on the conversation, not on getting a date.
Most women want to know what kind of person they are going out with. Make an effort to get to know her before diving in for a date

7. Give GENUINE compliments
There’s nothing worse than someone giving out a load of overblown lines. Everyone has something great about them, notice that and compliment them genuinely.

6. Keep your hands to yourself and respect their space
There are some people I call space invaders. Even when engaging in a casual chat they just seem to get too close. Some women have no objection to ‘touchy feely’ encounters, others are horrified by it. Respect the person until you have sussed out more about her. Touching can be a lovely flirty action, but should be confined to the arms or resting the hand just above the arms and NOT touching, until you know more. Test the personal space by moving closer, noticing the reactions then moving back a little to remove the threat

7. If you ask for a phone number, be sure you want to use it
Flirting and meeting people is NOT about trophy hunting it is about making new connections and having fun. If you don't intend to use the number, don't ask. There’s nothing worse than giving out a phone number and not having someone call. If you asked for it, use it .

8. Keep your self respect.  
Women always fall for men who are that little bit unreachable. Don't hover or grovel or be desperate. Think of yourself as special and know what you deserve.

And finally:

Be yourself. It’s no point in assuming a role you think someone wants you to play because you’ll get found out sooner or later. Be proud of who you are and if you aren’t YET sure how you are at your best, you might want to do some work on it. There are plenty of courses and self-help books out there.

(Source: www.flirtzone.com)

Flirting Tips for Women

1. Give clear signals
Men are notoriously bad at interpreting signals from women. Know what you want when you flirt and make sure your signals are clear and that they convey what you mean. It’s not fair to flirt with someone for the fun of it – unless they are obviously flirty themselves. Flirting for fun is fine when you know someone a little better. If you genuinely want to meet people then by all means flirt, just make sure you know how to separate the sexual flirting signals from the 'hi, I'm friendly' flirting signals.

2. Great States are catching
People love being around charismatic people because they spread good feelings. Get yourself into the right state for flirting and go for it. Feel good about yourself and others will feel good about you.

3. Carry something to get you noticed [Susan Rabin calls this a flirting prop]
If you want someone to approach you, be sure to wear or carry something that is eye-catching and noticeable to you. You will be surprised how much easier it is to go up to someone and ask a question about their prop.

4. Separate yourself from your friends
If you go out with a group of friends or even one girlfriend, make sure you separate from them so that you are more approachable. No man wants to be rejected in front of a group of women, and he may well feel he cannot approach you when you are ‘protected’ by a herd of other women!

5. Check your voice
Does your voice sound like a dental drill or do you wash people in waves of sensual sound?

6. If you are not interested, be polite when rejecting a man
‘Get lost nerd’ is NOT the way to say NO. Men who approach women may do so clumsily sometimes. If you are not interested, make it clear and be polite. It can be very difficult to get up the courage to approach a woman. Refuse someone in the way you would appreciate being turned down yourself. If you are sure someone is NOT for you you can say ‘I am sure you will find someone who is right for you, but I am sorry I don’t think it’s me. Remember that even if this person is not for you, they may have friend potential and who knows that benefits that can bring!! And now a short pause for a commercial break!

7. Be interesting by being interested

Cut down the talk about yourself and ask him open ended questions. Find out about him – after all people generally enjoy talking about themselves and feel flattered when someone shows an interest in them. This also gives him the cue that you like to know a bit about someone before exchanging numbers or accepting a date.

8. Ask him what he enjoys doing
Women and men often tend to fall back on the line ‘What do you do’? To some men, this can smack of ‘checking for wallet-padding’. Alternatively Not everyone is doing the work they love, YET and the question may put them on the spot. Men are much more activity orientated whereas women like to talk about emotions. Asking them what they enjoy doing in their life will allow find out more about what makes them tick.

9. If you give out your number, give the genuine one
Carry a personal or business card to hand out. This way you know that when you give out your phone number you either give out the genuine one or not at all. Imagine what it must feel like plucking up the courage to dial a woman’s number only to find it is the local Chinese take-away.

10. Make the first move!
95% of men I talked to said they would love to be approached by a woman. If women are looking for equality then it is only fair that they do their share of the asking. It will also give you an opportunity to understand what men have to go through when making a first approach.

And finally:

Be yourself. 

It’s no point in assuming a role you think someone wants you to play because you’ll get found out sooner or later. Be proud of who you are and if you aren’t YET sure how you are at your best, you might want to do some work on it. There are plenty of courses and self-help books out there.

(Source: www.flirtzone.com)

5 Interesting Ways To Ask For Her Phone Number

1. Never ask a woman you’ve just met for her phone number if you have done all of the talking but none of the listening. Why would a woman want to go out with you, when all you’ve done is talk at her instead of asking her questions and trying to find out about her. Who wants to go out with “the chronic talker?”

Conversation is a 50/50 deal. So, never just walk over to a woman, talk at her for two minutes, and then demand a phone number from her. You will likely not be pleased with her response.

2. When you are deciding whether to ask a woman for her phone number, it doesn’t matter for how long you’ve been talking to her. All that matters is how well you connected with her during that conversation.

When I meet a woman to whom I’m attracted – no matter whether I’m in a video store, the supermarket or a coffee shop – I am always finding out about her during our conversation. Just because a woman is pretty, doesn’t mean I want to go out with her. I have to find out about her. In order for me to be interested, I have to find her interesting and intriguing. This may only take a minute or two.

If I like the way the conversation is going in those first few minutes, I’ll say to her “Look, I’ve got to run but I’d like to carry this conversation over to another day. Give me your number and I’ll give you a call.” If you are responding to what each other is saying, and you’re both enjoying the conversation, then you should ask her out.

3. If a woman is with a group of friends, then the way to ask her for her phone number is to talk to all her friends. Don’t just walk over and start talking to the one in whom you’re interested. Talk to all of them.

If you show her that you are a friendly guy, and you get her friends to like you, then after you leave her friends will be speaking positively about you. You want her friends talking about you. It’s like having your own personal fan club.

Most guys make the mistake of only talking to the woman in whom he’s interested. When you do this, then you get the opposite reaction from her friends after you leave. What will happen is that after you leave, her friends are going to be saying: “Why would you go out with him? He’s so rude!” This is why you want to get her friends to like you.

What you do after you have entertained all of them and had good conversations with everyone, is you pull the woman you’re interested in aside by saying “C’mere one second. I’ve got to ask you something.” After you’ve pulled her away from her friends, then ask her out and get her phone number. After you leave, she’ll run back to her friends feeling really great that you chose her over all her other friends.

4. Respect a woman’s time. Let’s say you spot a woman in a bar who is with her friends. You wait until she goes alone to the bar to make your move, and you end up having a great conversation with her while you’re standing at the bar.

What I suggest in this situation is that you don’t monopolize her time. She is out to have a good time with her friends – acknowledge that. After you have chatted with her for a few minutes, and you have established that the two of you get along well, tell her “I don’t want to keep you from your friends. Why don’t you give me your number and we’ll get together another time.”

By doing this, you distinguish yourself from every other guy in the bar. Most guys would monopolize her time, thinking that they need to talk to her for some minimum amount of time before they can ask her for her number. Not true – be different by being respectful of her time and she will want to give you her number. This actually segues really well into number 5.

5. A woman will not only want to give you her phone number, but will also look forward to your call, if you make her want more of you. This is accomplished with two extremely powerful techniques I call “giving your best two minutes” and “using the power of the walk away.” Use these and you will always leave a woman wanting more.

Have you ever had a connection with a woman that was great for the first few minutes . . . then you sabotaged the conversation because you started to over think the situation and got nervous? If you meet a woman you’re attracted to and are having a great conversation with her – no matter where you are – it is ALWAYS better to excuse yourself while the conversation is good so you leave her wanting more.

Think about how you feel when you’re talking to someone who is really intriguing and they have to leave. When they walk away from you, you want more (not less) of them. This is what I call the power of walking away. Keep her thinking and wondering about you, and she’ll be looking forward to your phone call.

You can ask a woman out and ask for her phone number within 30 seconds, two minutes or ten minutes of meeting her. It doesn’t matter. It’s not about the amount of time you’ve spent with her . . . it’s about how well you listen to her and how great the conversation is going.

So the next time you’re wondering if you should ask a woman for her phone number, my advice to you is this: 

Go for it! 

It’s better to ask a woman out and find out whether she’s interested, than to waste valuable time over the next few days wondering what could have been.

Signs That He Loves You

1. He tells you 
If he says those three words and says them often, count yourself lucky. A lot of men assume that their women know they're loved and don't really tell them often enough. If he realizes your need to hear him say he loves you, and he means every word of it, he's truly one of a kind. A man may not say the actual words but imply as much when he tells you how fortunate he feels to have you in his life. 

2. He shows you 
Some men aren't exactly good with words and expressing their feelings. But they choose their own avenues of expression. This kind of guy does things, little or big to show you how much you mean to him. That may include ordering take-away when he thinks you need a break from cooking or taking the kids off your hands so that you can have some time to yourself. Yes, you may need to hear the words from him, but have you never heard that 'actions speak louder than words?' 

3. He makes you feel special 
And then there's the man who's always trying to keep the romance alive. He brings you flowers or wakes up extra early to bring you breakfast in bed. He's always going out of his way to make you feel exceptional. 

4. He's happy around you 
He sometimes foregoes time with his guy friends just to be with you. It may be because you've been feeling particularly low or you haven't spent enough time together lately or just because he feels good to be with you. If he can't get enough of you it's a sure sign that he's got it bad. 


5. He listens to you 
We're not talking 'You command, he obeys'. But when you're talking, he's genuinely interested in what you're saying and gives you his undivided attention. He looks at you (not at the television blaring in the background or the newspaper in his hand), responds appropriately and gives you the idea that he's really concerned about your concerns. 

6. He compliments you 
He notices when you make an effort with your appearance and appreciates it. He tells you which things suit you and add to your look. It always feels great to dress up but when he looks up admiringly and tells you so, you know you matter. 


7. He takes care of you 
If he babies you when you're sick and nurses you back to health, you can be pretty sure you've got a good thing going. If your comfort level is so high that you can look most miserable and still be secure enough in his love, you've got it made. Marriage vows don't include the "In good times and bad, in sickness and health" clause for nothing. Rose, a high-flying career woman, recalls the time she was suffering from a stomach infection and feeling wretched. "I was running a high fever and feeling like my stomach was turned inside out. The only thing that made me feel like I should hasten my recovery was Marvin, my boyfriend. He was like a guardian angel. He soothed my fevered brow and held the bowl while I puked my guts out. If ever I had any doubt about his undying devotion for me, it was quelled at that instant." 

8. His friends and family respect you 
Sometimes you can gauge how a man feels about you from the way his circle of friends and close family behave around you. If they hold you in high regard, you can be sure he's been telling them just how happy he is to have you in his life. 

9. He appreciates your worth 
Sometimes men choose more indirect ways of expressing their true feelings. He may not actually tell you he loves you or even do anything special. But he may tell you how proud he is of your achievements or what a good mother you are or even how well you run the house. You may even find him praising you to the skies to family or acquaintances. 


10. He asks for your opinion 
When important decisions are at stake, either concerning him or both of you jointly or even the kids, he doesn't just go ahead and do what he thinks is right. He asks for your advice and not just for the sake of it. He often considers it and may even go by it. Or if he doesn't, he tells you why he didn't. 


11. He takes your feelings into account 
If something upsets you concerning his family or friends, he tries to see your side of it. He feels for you and even if he's seen you cry a thousand times before, he still tries to make you feel better and has that tissue box at hand. 

12. He's interested in what you want too

Let's say you're both watching television and you want to watch Oprah, while he'd like to catch Arsenal v/s Chelsea. You know how men are where football is concerned! If he lets you watch your choice of program, not just grudgingly but because he loves to see you happy, you've got a winner. And if he actually sits through it just because he wants to be by your side, you know he's a goner!

(Source: www.futurescopes.com)

Fun Kiss Facts

1. In our life, average, people spend time for kissing about 20,160 minutes or about 336 hours.
2. Kissing could be the toothache medicine, because saliva production will clean the mouth. But, be careful, kissing and saliva could be a media to spread infectious disease.
3. A minute kissing means burn 26 calories.