10 Signs a Woman is Not Ready To Commit

1. She Spends More Time With Her Girlfriends Than With You

Like most women, I enjoy spending time with my girlfriends. They are fun, they like to talk as much as I do and I get to watch girly movies to my heart’s content (try dragging a guy to see ‘Something New’). But as much as I like hanging with my girls, there’s something I usually enjoy just as much, if not more: Hanging out with my man. I love seeing him, talking to him, just chilling out, holding hands or whatever. It brings me happiness. It makes me feel content. And it builds the bond of our relationship. So, guys, if you find that the woman you are dating seems to enjoy hanging out with her girlfriends way more than she enjoys hanging out with you, it’s your first good sign that she is not ready to commit to you.

2. She Doesn’t Return Your Phone Calls

Now most women complain that their men don’t call them enough. They complain that they are forced to wait by the phone for their men to return their calls, their men fail to call when they are going to be late or that they don’t call just to ‘talk’. So for a woman not to call you back? That is beyond odd. It is abnormal. And it’s impolite. And most women, even if they’re not interested in you, will at least call you back. If a woman is not returning your phone calls, it is a very clear sign that she is not really interested in you. Maybe there’s another man or maybe she just has other things on her mind, but you are not a priority.

 3. She Shows Up Late For Dates

Okay, so you’ve met a young lady you like. You’ve taken her out a few times. And you feel she is just as interested in you as you are in her. You just have one problem – she’s always showing up late for for your dates together. Sometimes she calls when she’s going to be late, sometimes she doesn’t. She only shows consistency in the amount of time it takes her to arrive at your house, get ready when you get to her house or the time it takes her to meet you some place. What should this say to you? That either a) she is so self-centered that she thinks the world revolves around her (in which case you probably wouldn’t want to be in a relationship with her anyway) or (more likely) b) she doesn’t care very much about your feelings. And a woman who can’t even show up to meet you on time is clearly telling you she can’t be dependable in other areas (like being faithful, being loyal, etc.). And do you really want to be a someone like that?

4. She is Vague & Non-Committal About Her Feelings

This is a trait both uncommitted men and women share – when asked how they feel about you (and the relationship), they can never quite answer the question. They are vague (’I like you’ or ’I think you’re okay‘ and definitely beware of ‘You seem like a really nice guy’) and non-committal (’Why don’t we just see how things go’ or, my favorite, ‘Let’s just play it by ear’). And this is particularly egregious in the case of women because women love to talk. Especially about our feelings. We talk to our girlfriends, our co-workers, our moms and our sisters all the time about our feelings! About everything from how we feel about the new latte at Starbucks, to how we feel about the war in Iraq to how we feel about the weather. In fact, 90% of our conversations are probably about how we feel? Yet the woman you are dating can’t share her feelings with you? That is totally bogus. Trust me when I tell you – she is not with you for the long haul.  

5. She Spends All Her Time at Church

Hey, I can’t fault a sister for wanting to devote her time to the Lord. And church can be supremely busy, between choir rehearsal, usher board meeting, belonging to the new building committee and trying to do Sunday worship, Wednesday Bible Study plus the Friday Night ‘Refresher’. This is a sister to be admired. This is a sister to be respected in her devotion to the things of God. This is not, however, a sister who is ready to be in a committed relationship with you. No harm, no foul – but when she is ready (spiritually and emotionally), she will make time for a special man in her life. Until that time, she is best left alone (or just treated as a good friend).

6. School/Career is Her #1 Priority

There comes a time in every person’s life when you realize it’s time to get yourself together. It’s time to start school or go back. It’s time to switch careers or put some new energy into climbing that corporate ladder at your current job. You realize you need a bigger house. You realize you need to move out of your parent’s home. You realize you want to travel the world (and need some money to do it). You’re tired of traveling through Europe and are ready to grow up. Whatever the case may be, you (finally) decide to focus all your energies and pursue your goals for success. And, usually, that means it becomes the most important thing in your life. Guys – if the woman you are dating are at that point, you simply have to accept that that’s where her head is. She needs to focus her energies to make her first million, write her first book, get her PH.D. or whatever. But she needs you to understand that is where her time, attention and energy will be devoted. And it probably means she is not in a position to give you the attention you deserve in a committed relationship. But it’s okay. Support her, love her, whatever, but know that the relationship with you will probably not progress until she reaches at least some of her goals. Patience (in this case) may be a virtue – waiting her out might just be the ticket for you. But that’s a decision you have to make for yourself.

7. She Has Too Many Ex’es Around

Yes, ladies, I said it. I know you spent all that time explaining to your guy how you and Gary used to date, but now that he’s married with kids, you guys are ‘just friends’. And I know you’ve explained to him that having ex-boyfriends in your life don’t mean anything. That the romance is over and you have now settled into a mature, life-affirming, God-fearing, spirit-led relationships with them. And I know it is something you would like him to believe, but we all really know the truth: many times having ex-boyfriends in our lives just serves as a crutch for our new relationships. A possibility. A back-up in times of trouble. It ain’t pretty and it ain’t cute, but many times it’s true. Not all the time, but many times. But, any time a woman has a lot of men in her life (particularly ex-boyfriends) it is not a sign that says she is really ready to begin a new phase in her life with a brand new man. What it is probably saying is that she is content right where she is - in her comfort zone. And whether the relationship with you works out or not, she will be just fine. After all, when you don’t act right, she can just call Robert, John or Peter anyway. They understand her just fine. And they are more than willing to give her a shoulder to cry on – or whatever else she might require. I’m just telling the truth….

8. She Constantly Talks About Her Past Relationships

Can you say ‘it’s over’? Well, apparently she can’t. She talks so often about how Mark mistreated her by cheating on her with other women, you are starting to feel like it was you who had been betrayed. And if she’s not talking about just one guy, she talks randomly about multiple men she has dated. You are starting to feel like you are just one more person in a whole long line of failed relationships. And you know what? You probably are. If you are dating a woman who cannot seem to realize that she has met a brand new guy who deserves a brand new chance, she is not even remotely ready to be in a serious relationship with you. Make your exit quickly – at least so that when she does talk about you, she won’t have so much to go on and on about to her new guy.

9.She Constantly Puts Men Down

Even worse than a woman who constantly talks about her past relationships (and how they did her wrong) is one who thinks all men are bad – period. They are all dogs, they are all unfaithful, they are all liars, they are all abusive, they are all – you fill in the blanks. Nothing you say can change her mind and no good deed on your part will ever be enough. This woman is far, far gone and only an act of God can bring her back. Be nice, be sweet, and be on your way.

10. She Is Only Interested in What You Can Give Her

You ever notice that you can only see your girl over a fancy dinner? Or how she calls you right around the time a new movie comes out or a good tour is in your city? Here’s the truth – she’s using you. She sees you as a source of food, movie or concert tickets. Or, even worse, as a rent check, a down payment for a car or a good-looking man to be on her arm. She is very interested in what you have. She is not interested, however, in you. It’s a cold thing to realize, but you’re better off in the long run if you admit it to yourself now: your girlfriend is a gold-digger. See – there you’ve said it. You are free to go or free to stay, but at least you know the truth. I hope you decide to go…

(Source: christiansinglez.wordpress.com)